This personality trait is more common than you may think, and is likely to be hidden in plain sight. It is thought that perhaps up to 5% of the U.S. population may have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Narcissists tend to be male (75% of narcissists are male), and be very confident with an exaggerated concept of self worth. This person also tends to have an unfair sense of entitlement, lack empathy, and often exploits others. The overt narcissist may be easy to spot because generally they are an “ass” - aggressive, attention seeking, and confrontational when challenged or questioned. Beware of the covert narcissist. This person has more subtle symptoms and is more motivated by control.  The covert narcissist seeks attention, which may place him or her in a position of power but certainly admiration. This narcissist may be a true “jeckyl and hyde”.

The relationship may start  with admiration, respect and even with YOU placed on a pedestal (this can be intoxicating and a “dream come true”.. But this will degrade into devaluation to obtain control. This can be insidious and may present itself over time. This is often followed by a dissolution of the relationship where  what was once so meaningful and perfect is discarded and disgraced. Hovering may follow which may appear to be a reconciliation but is really an attempt to regain power and control. This is a dangerous and complex cycle where the first step to breaking the cycle begins with identifying its existence. 

Too often someone's self worth is the first target for a narcissist in the quest to gain power. 

Some things are just yours, whether that's a regular social event, a trip to the gym, a hobby, vacation, or whatever it is that stimulates growth and self improvement. 

Understand that your isolation is a power move for the narcissist, and a very unhealthy one at that. Surround yourself with like-minded people, support others and receive support. Empowering and motivating social connections are vital. 

While the narcissist may not agree, understand, see value in an experts consultation or participate, this is a powermove for you.